Say who you are and what you’re
Describe your physical
Tell about your background.
Tell about your occupation.
Tell about your interests and
Tell what makes you unique.
Tell some specifics, like if
you are a smoker or a non-smoker.
If religion is important to
you, mention it.
Choose words carefully and be
If you’re planning to visit
make sure they know and are OK with it.
If you plan to meet, do so at a
public place, like a restaurant or coffee house.
If you use perfume, use a very
light touch on the letter. (for women)
Keep writing, even if you don’t
get a reply; my creed has always been “You Never
Know Unless you Ask”
Don’t write very short
or very long letters.
Don’t be afraid to show
your humorous side.
Don’t lie about your
looks or anything else.
Don’t omit any facts,
because people sometimes assume the worst.
Don’t send any money,
credit card information or airline tickets
Don’t restrict or make
unrealistic demands on someone who hasn’t even
met you yet.
Don’t move too fast it
scares people or they think you are desperate.
Don’t show up on their
doorstep, ring the bell and say, “SURPRISE!!!,
Don’t call people at
work. Work phone calls are a definite taboo
unless prearranged. Some men have almost lost
jobs because of women researching their number
and calling them at work. Please be considerate.
Don’t give up hope if
you don’t get an answer. Even with friends and
relatives, you don’t get replies all the time.
Don’t ever send anything
that you expect to have returned, for your
irreplaceable items may never come back to you.
We suggest that you make copies of the items you
send, and keep the originals and don’t expect
your copies to be returned.